Day 200 – Filling the Well
This week I filled my well with a 2 hour deep tissue massage. The massage therapist I see is a book lover and chats during our sessions. Normally, I’m not a fan of chatting during a massage, but this therapist reads a lot across genres so I usually come away with a few author suggestions and insights on books we’ve both read so I don’t discourage it. During our last session, our conversation drifted to priorities and productivity and she said, “You know, I didn’t realize until recently that you can’t have 15 priorities. You really can’t have more than 3 or things just don’t work out.” A little light bulb went off in my head when she said that because I’m always trying to do and be 20 things at once. Everyday, I want to work on writing better, cooking better, cleaning better, gardening better, singing better, being a better friend, walking more, stretching more, organizing my life by organizing my closet, cupboards, garage. The list goes on and on and on and on. And every time I’m writing, I’m anxious about whether or not I’ll fit my workout in later or if I’ll be to tired or I think maybe I should be cleaning my floor, shining my sink, organizing my sock drawer or making a meal. I rarely feel content and absorbed in the present because I have too many competing goals fighting for attention.
So today I sat down and thought about it. What are my 3 top priorities in life right now?
- Make & eat good food
Simple right? Yeah, on the surface. What you don’t see if the battle in my head, the raving voice that’s rattling but! but! but!. But what about gardening? You NEED to know how to grow your own food. What about house keeping? You NEED to have a clean floor. But what about reading? You NEED to be a prolific reader if you’re going to be a prolific writer. But what about your friends? Aren’t they a top priority too? They won’t like you if they find out they’re not. But what about the dog? She NEEDS you too! Priorities spin out of control if you don’t keep them in check. And there’s always someone else out there who is going to tell you what your priorities should be if you let them. So everyday moving forward it will be just 1, 2, 3. If you can fit something else in AFTER, fine. But no rushing through 1, 2, 3 to get to an impulsive 4. Deal? Deal.
Action expresses priority. – Mahatma Ghandi
Prompt: Make a list of your top 3 priorities.